Why do you have to be afraid in turning down Bingo Bullies in a Bingo Chat Room? Primarily, you do not want to hurt anybody’s feeling and probably not wanting to be labelled as “mean” in the bingo chat room where these bingo bullies are lurking to lure their next subject. With this, you might just find yourself saying yes even if it is contrary to your belief.
Actually, difficulty to say “NO” is not a rare issue. There are lot other people that are usually trapped in uncomfortable situation because of wanting to have social approval and end up doing the opposite of what they want to have. If you have this kind of personality and become a bingo player in the internet and these bingo bullies find you they will draw you to take their bait. You will be deceived by their schemes of making you their bingo buddy but they are only up to sizing you. They are just trying to know if you can loan them money if they run out of theirs. These manipulators have ways to annoy their targeted bingo player that the concerned may think that saying “yes” will solve their problem. Remember that once you give in to their tricks, they will keep on coming back to you making you someone they can run to for loans and they will do any way they can to convince you.
How will you identify these persons? Well, be cautious with those persons in bingo chat room who will be fond of offering you free points. They will keep on doing you favor even if you decline their offer, they will insist. This is the tactic that they do to make you feel indebted and you will not just turn them down whenever they seek for favor from you. However, this kind of players may be difficult to be differentiated from others who genuinely share their winnings but expects nothing in return. The best indicator of their difference, I guess the genuine ones will not call you in a private bingo chat room just to ask you to loan them money
How will you make protect yourself from becoming soft target of bingo bully? How will you do it in a way that you will not become mean-spirited and will not offend a so called “buddy”? Remember to be firm in your decision of saying NO. Then even if you do not actually have to explain to anybody, you may do so. This will make you appear not so aggressive. Tell someone asking for bingo loans that it is your principle not to lend money to anyone for the purpose of making things fair. Tell the concerned bingo buddy that you do this because you have tight budget. Do not feel guilty for not lending money. After all, you are doing it to everyone. This will protect from being fooled by bingo bully you will not end up regretting that the money you worked hard to earn was just carted away just as fast as saying “Yes” by someone who deceived you.
Do not be hesitant, say “NO”. Them nicely and be firm. You may ignore them or report them to bingo master if they become a nuisance.
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